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How to approach a girl.

@sdko #1

Hi !

Most important rule in life : First you must be happy yourself, and then a partner relationship can be the cherry on the pie.

If you are not happy now and seek happiness through a partner relationship, then it might backfire, or be a weak foundation, as you make yourself dependent.

You also might find out that peace of mind and real love in your heart lasts much longer than physical pleasure.

Having said that : Not all girls are the same, but my favorite girls all love chocolate.
I did send my favorite girl chocolate a few weeks ago.She was happy with that.

And if you feel like reading, here's a few weblinks :
http://www.creationsmagazine.com/articles/C112/Tolle.html
http://www.katinkahesselink.net/kr/relationships.html
http://www.theworkbook.org/text5f.htm

Good luck. Enjoy your time! :)

@sdko : confidence is the most important things. If you lack it, here are a couple of things that can heighten it :

- ask friends/relatives what your strong points are, and keep them in mind,
- talk to people about what you like/enjoy, try to stay positive when you talk
- try doing things you're afraid of (especially with girls), and consider it a win if you've done what you're afraid of (for example starting a conversation), without caring about the end result. With time, your fears will slowly disappear.
- exercise : you don't need to be fit to seduce girls, but exercising has a lot of positive side effects (you're more relaxed, your looks improve...)
- dress better

Rejection is unfortunately part of the game with girls, but there are lots of girls around, and even if you experience some fails, this will help you find someone you'll be happy with.
Oh, and never ever act as if you're desperate and need help/reassurance.

Everybody has emotional/physical needs, but acting as a needy person is a girl repellent.
#15 hit the point.

Your weight is good. I'm 1.95 for 100kg and I'm fine; belly? I have a little too, and I don't give a damn about it. The guy who said you have to lose 45 kg is a troll or someone with some serious food disorder.

Time is passing? you are 18. I mean, I am 33 and if I look back at when I was 18...man...your life is about to begin!

Smoking weed is ok I used to smoke too back in the days.. but don't smoke only because you are emotionlally empty; and about this, I'm sorry, but is not by fucking that you will feel better..sex is not the answer.

You will start soon the university...you will meet a LOT of new people and a LOT of opportunity will arise. Believe me, it will be awesome.
Remember: Be positive. Especially in bad times.
approach her with your white knight and say "m'lady, how may I be of service." This will put her in check.. then offer to pay the check

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